Review: Why Him? Why Her?: Understanding Your Personality Type and Finding the Perfect Match
Why Him? Why Her?: Understanding Your Personality Type and Finding the Perfect Match by Helen Fisher
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
It has been a long time since I have read a book focused on love and the rules of attraction; the last book being ‘The Five Love Languages’. This book by Helen Fisher breaks down our traits into two categories (character and temperament). She further defines four personality types which is the main pillars of the book: Explorer, Builder, Director and Negotiator.
Part of the book contains a test in which you answer 4 sets of 14 questions to determine your type. Once you have identified this type it provides you with more context when working through the chapters.
I did enjoy reading it and felt that my primary and secondary type aligned with what she had described. I wish I had of read her previous book “Why we love?” as I feel it would have been a better introduction versus going straight into this one
Three key takeaways from the book:
1. There are four primary personality types (one primary and one secondary) which are: Explorer, Builder, Director and Negotiator
2. Hormones such as dopamine, serotonin, estrogen and testosterone are shared with both females and males and the levels drive the personality types
3. When it comes to our character traits and personality. 50% is associated with genetic factors and 50% is inherited from the fabric of our mind